Ogle’s memoir is deeply concerned with the nature and power of love. How does the text explore the meaning of love and connection? How does it create contrasts between healthy kinds of love, and distorted senses of love that lead to abuse or control?

How does the text explore different notions and experiences of identity? How do various figures conceive of, or relate to, their identity in the text? How are individuals—such as Ogle, Mom, Abuela—different or similar in how they feel about identity?

How does the motif of religion shape the text? Does Ogle’s relationship to religion change throughout the text? Why or why not?